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Kink Socials – Fetish & Leder Club Dreiländereck

“Reaching visibility and respect and redrucing prejudices and disrimination in relation to fetish is our main goal”

Published on 07 August 2021


About the “Kink Socials”-Series

Since the corona pandemic is slowly coming to an end, people turning back to meet in real life. But apart from that, it is always an important topic whithin the kink community how to balance real social life and virtual social life. With all articles in this “kink socials”-series I want to introduce a few kink social groups, and want to show, that they are an imprtant part of the kink community. Maybe this leads to other new groups, which were found elsewhere.


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The second part of this series is about the Leder und Fetish Club Dreiländereck (FLCD) (engl.: Leather and Fetish Club Three State Area). I now talk to Martin, a co-organiser of this group.

Hello Martin, please describe how ist happened that you’ve found your group?
FLCD Fetisch & Leder Club Dreiländereck has a short but interesting history. It was established out of the Fetisch-Stammtisch-Freiburg, which was found by me and two other leather men from this region. The first regulars’ table took place in August 2020. Freiburg as a city with a big queer community, had no events for fetish people and we wanted to change that. Due to the pandemic in 2020 we only had three rounds of regulars’ table but they were quite crowded from the beginning. Based on the high popularity of this event all came to the conclusion that we should to more for the fetish community in this region. But not within the existing group, so we decided to build a club. After several weeks on 2nd June 2021 we found the FLCD Fetisch&Leder Club Dreiländereck. The word Dreiländereck (three-state-area) was based on where the visitors of our former group came from. They all came from Germany, France and Switzerland. We wanted to give a home to the supraregional community, an umbrella organisation and to be seen as an established fetish group as you know it from other cities. We hope we can build collaborative connections to other clubs.

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Which kind of events are you organising in your club?
Because the FLCD is just a few years old and still under pandemic restrictions, there weren’t many events to celebrate yet. We are still doing our regulars’ table and also had one „Fetisch am Lagerfeuer“ (fetish at campfire). We were also part of the CSD- pride parade in Freiburg. The main goal is to strenghten the fetish community, to be location where events can take place but also offer a safe haven for people. Also to build up acceptance and visibility in public is a main objective of our group.

How is the age structure of your members?
Our members are from a quite heterogeneous age structure. We have visitors between 20 and 80. Among the permanent club members there is no clear age structure, and we are not seeking a particular structure. Every homosexual fetish guy is very welcome at our events. Fetish doesn’t know an age range. We want to concentrate ourselves on our passion and want to build up solidarity based on that.

How are you dealing with fetish and kink in public?
Reaching visibility and respect and redrucing prejudices and disrimination in relation to fetish is our main goal.
It’s crucial, that everyone can show oneself as he likes to do. From personal experience I can say that interest and respect is higher in public than rejection. And the more the public knows about it, the more acceptance can be achieved.
Here a recent story: On my way to the CSD-parade this year I chosed to walk straight through the inner city. I way wearing a full leather uniform with boots and accesoires. There were only interested and enthousiastic views from people of any kind of age and background.
Young people wanted to talk to me, to tell me how great my leather outfit would look, and that it would be quite normal to show oneself in public in a way you want to and feel good.
For me it’s quite normal to show myself in leather, rubber, sportswear or a similar fetish in public. But you should always think about what you’re doing and not show sexual stuff or show yourself naked because we should show each other the same respect
Encouragement comes from appreciation, and so I want to encourage everyone not to hide his fetish but to live out it openly and to show it to others.

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What would you tell someone, who is interested to come to your group but maybe still is a bit shy, to do so?
We all know that. You have your preferences, an idea, a plan and you don’t dare to do it. To be proud of your fetish and show it needs a lot of courage. There is no best way to do it, but i recommend „Grit your teeth and get to it“.
I just want to encourage everyone just to come over to our events of FLCD. The easiest way on a new area is to talk to someone who knows how it is to deal with that problems. Meeting persons who have the same interests, give oneself a lot of energy to keep on going your own way. Based on my own experience, I’ve never felt any kind of excklusion, but instead got much new experience and today I can totally deal with that topic in a relaxed way. My fetish is no flaw.
What is also possible, if someone wants to come to us, but doesn’t want to be seen in public, is to change your clothing in directly at our events. In bigger cities it’s normal to find a locker room for changing your clothing.
Just show yourself as you are. Dare to come to fetish events of our club or fetish parties and other stuff in the scene. In most cases your own mind is the biggest obstacle.

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The social life of kinksters takes place to a great extent on a virtual level. Not only since Corona, but also because of geographical distances between different kinksters. What’s your opinion on the advantages and disadvantages of virtual social life and real social life?
Expecially in rural areas virtual worlds are crucial to find friends. In cities things work differently. Also the decline of meeting points, safe heavens and clubs leads to a higher importance of the social level. Corona even strenghtened that. It’s important to to show commitment in the real life. Both kinds of social life should exist next to each other, the both have advantages and disadvantages.
I personally prefer meetings in the real life. You can make personal contacts easier, don’t have to focus on just one person, is among other nice guys, and don’t have to settle in an early stage of contact. Virtual meetings are more superficial, you just seek to find a time for a date. There won’t emerge a real tight connection while you invest a lot of time chatting.
Also you can’t easily take the measure of the persons you are talking to. Some situations bare some dangers in them.

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Can you describe how you found out that you have some kinks and fetishes? Were there any initial events?
That’s a quite difficult question and I can’t relate to one particular fetish or kink. I’ve disovered my fetishes over several years, and each of them came on its own way. I like sportswear, sneaker, rubber sox, and leather. Also different play types of BDSM belong o my life. Sportswear, sneakers and sox I discovered to enjoy during my sport lessons in school. School mates in hot outfits and sneakers I really loved to see. Also smelling its scents began in that school locker rooms. Still today I really like it to see even hetero guys in such clothings.
With rubber I really can’t remember so good, how it started. I just tested one piece of rubber and I liked it. It is undescribable to feel rubber on your body. Most interesting is, how my leather fetish started: With early 17, still without knowing I would have any kind of fetish, I had a „classic“ date. Back then, without any experience in the scene, the other guy told me the address, where we should meet. I remembered the wrong address and went to a leather bar. The guys there quickly told me, that wasn’t the place I was looking for. But these dominance there, and these leather men hasn’t left my mind since then.
I for a very long time thought I was too young for leather and so just had only sportswear and rubber. But I still was interested in uniformed leather men and nice boots. Years later I bought a leather harness and other leather clothing, until I owned a whole uniform. Today I proudly can wear a full leather outfit. Over the years I made some experiences with play types of BDSM, more and harder stuff. I would say i grew into it, without regretting it.

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Which further plans does your group have?
The FLCD has many plans for the future, many projects and visions. Me as the chairman, only reports something when it’s ready. So I don’t want to go into detail so far. In this year we want to connect with other clubs. What I also want to offer during this year is a big fetish social with dinner, citiy tour and party. But due to the pandemic it’s still not allowed to have parties in the city, so I think this is going to happen next year. Further we are planning a big event which should include not only the fetish-, but also the whole queer community within the city. The FLCD also is open for taking part in plans of a queer center in Freiburg. In the next month we will have another regulars’ table. And next year we are going to take part at the Freiburg CSD and also in other cities. Very important for us I also to gain new members for our club and to open an own club room. I’m very looking forward to this.

Martin, thanks for this interview!

Have a look at Leder & Fetish Club Dreiländereck’s website and follow Martin on Instagram

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